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ONU Blog: Love Languages

Recently I went to something here on campus that I have never tried before, Spiritual Conversation Hour. This is an alternative to the regular chapel services offered weekly. Last week we discussed the concept of love languages. Love languages are different categories of affection that people either enjoy giving or receiving. Everybody has a mix of the five categories that exist with often one trait taking the lead over the others. The five love languages are as follows;


Words of Affirmation

People with words of affirmation as a love language value verbal acknowledgments of affection, including frequent "I love you's," compliments, words of appreciation, verbal encouragement and often frequent communication.


Quality Time

People whose love language is quality time feel the most adored when their partner actively wants to spend time with them and is always down to hang out. Active listening, eye contact and full presence are priorities in this language.


Acts of Service

The love language acts of service is valuing when your partner goes out of their way to make your life easier. It's things like bringing you soup when you're sick, making your coffee for you in the morning, or remembering chores you can't. 


Gifts

Gifts is a pretty straightforward love language: You feel loved when people give you things. It's not about the monetary value but the thought behind the item. People with this style recognize and value the gift-giving process: the careful reflection, the deliberate choosing of the object to represent the relationship, and the emotional benefits from receiving the present. 


Physical Touch

People with physical touch as their love language feel loved when they receive physical signs of affection including kissing, holding hands and cuddling. Physical intimacy and touch can be incredibly affirming and serve as a powerful emotional strengthener for people with this love language.


In my personal survey that I took, my results ended with quality time being number one, with gifts and physical touch being the runner-ups. This very much reflects the state of my life. I've been super busy as of late, so when a friend reaches out to want to hang it always makes my day. Being single has definitely changed my love languages as well. I've started to appreciate the platonic forms of these languages a lot more than I ever have, really opening my eyes to how each of these come different from everyone.

The nice thing about love languages is that they are flexible! Yours will change over time depending on your lifestyle and those around you to reciprocate that affection. So I encourage you to take your own love language quiz and find where you fall in the group.



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  1. Maiya DilboneOctober 18, 2022 at 8:18 AM

    This was a very interesting blog! I am pretty sure my love language is words of affirmation, but I will definitely be taking the quiz to know for sure. You are spot on, knowing the love language of those around you will help you better reach their needs. I also think it is interesting your love language can change based on certain situations in life. There are so many things you can learn about love languages, however just knowing the basics will make a huge impact in your relationships.

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  2. AnonymousOctober 19, 2022 at 6:47 PM

    This is something I'm somewhat unfamiliar with. I get the general purpose behind it. I think it definitely does help you form stronger relationships with those around you when you know what they need. This is definitely something I need to read into more.

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  3. AnonymousOctober 19, 2022 at 8:13 PM

    I love learning about the different love languages! mine without a doubt is physical touch by a landslide. I love learning about how everyone is different and appreciates different things!

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  4. AnonymousOctober 20, 2022 at 5:17 AM

    A different group at ONU that I have been a part of has also discussed love languages. At first I misunderstood and thought it was referring to romantic love. My top language was Words of Affirmation. When a loved one is having a hard time, I try to praise them about what they have achieved in the past to give them courage. Quality Time was my second. I’m more of an introvert so that time is usually talking about fun topics or going to WOW to eat together.

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